Friday, October 29
Does Being Altruistic Mean Being Alone
When you are a constant giver, or what my blogging buddy"AltruisticDad" explained as being an altruistic person, you feel you're alone. You have the heart to accept all and appreciate all, but sadly no one understands you, let alone accepts you.
This is sad. You can't stop yourself or change your beliefs, or even pretend to be someone you are not. The society tries constantly to change you; either by offering advice or by force. But you have to be true to yourself. Material things in life become just a means to have a decent life, not a luxury. What you yearn for is only love; Love of god, love of humanity, love of the thought. For the true happiness that you experience is through giving, not taking, and the only thing that you would ask for is acceptance for who you are.
Most of the bloggers I think fit in this altruistic category, especially the ones that keep the trend, or else why should they bother to reach others. They are not selfish people, on the contrary, they burn to light the pavement for others, they respect the mind, and they care to share.
I urge the bloggers to continue sharing and know that although you do feel the loneliness within, you are not alone.
You all know that these words came from my heart, and I'm sure and positive that it would reach your hearts.
For poetry lovers this is a poem I've written some years back and it may need some altering here and there, but I like to share it with you anyway, enjoy:
Big Heart
Complimented me indeed
when you said I had a big heart
To that notion I agreed
But to me the saddest part
But to me the saddest part
The den inside is so enormous
It can lodge the universe
Nature to me is overwhelming
Can't overlook or diverse
Can't overlook or diverse
Humans precede it all
No prejudices to a race
for only I perceive a soul
That upholds abundant grace
That upholds abundant grace
With all I sympathize
Feel the pain through their eyes
never hate or criticize
Beliefs I can not compromise
Beliefs I can not compromise
You think that I should be happy
An' satisfied by my deed!
On the contrary, I'm in misery
Of the ugly human greed
Of the ugly human greed
Hurt are the closest around,
Traits they can not understand
faking is what they demand
A dedication I can not stand
Some want me to be a puppet
or silence my word and cuff it
But as if a bird with no attachments
Through my thoughts I flee free
A dedication I can not stand
Some want me to be a puppet
or silence my word and cuff it
But as if a bird with no attachments
Through my thoughts I flee free
Can't enclose myself in
And here is what agonizes me:
Loneliness, yes my friend I suffer
For denoting such a noble offer
And here is what agonizes me:
Loneliness, yes my friend I suffer
For denoting such a noble offer
Copyright: R. Khaja2001
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19 Comments:
Yes AltDad, those are the ones I'm addressing. And you are right, some could keep on blogging for their commentary list, but how far could they go? People will eventually differentiate between the good and the bad. Personalities are felt through the writings, and an altruistic person has always something to offer. Some don't even have to write long blogs to convey the thought; few words to provoke the thoughts and present them through his commentators are enough.
Hmmmm...
What about commentators?
Or, commentators without a blog. I would think that those are the true altruists.
And in order to be truly altruistic, should a blogger disable comments on their posts?
Rabab, you made me think, and question my motives for blogging. I thank you for that :)
*Thinking hard*
All in all, I don't think a person should be too cynical, don't you think?
Gigi, thoughtfully
P.S. loved this line:
"With all I sympathize
Feel the pain through their eyes
never hate or criticize"
Amen to that.
Dear Gigi
Thanx friend and I'm happy that my post made you think 'bout that. And I'm sorry if I failed to mention the commentator, yes some commentators are truly altruistic, you can feel it through their comments. If they did not care they wouldn't bother to state their point of view in the first place. And you can sense their concern from their comments, and know who is honest and who just wants to fill in. especially when it comes to serious issues. Thanx for clearing this point out
Cynicism would never get you anywhere, rational debates with the acceptance of all points of view is healthy.
I am confused! I think its this brown template that makes me not concentrate, I need a more cheerful color to be able to read those complicated comments.
very nice poem indeed!
i.m.s.!
Dearest Darling Rabab, your poem once again is exquisite and I thank you for sharing it with us.
As for being altruistic, (which is just another word for selflessness) you give people way too much credit.
Blogs are here for us to share with others, and for them to share with us. If you disable the comments on your posts then that means you do not want people to share their views with you, and THAT in a way can also be selfish. It's like saying "read my views but don't tell me yours".
If you just want a place to write your feelings and whatnot in, then what's the point of having a blog? You could just do it the old-fashioned way with an ink pen and journal. What I'm trying to say is, in a way, we are all selfish wether we know it or not (wether we like it or not).
I never said close the commentary link. I don't know where you got this idea from. What I'm saying is sharing is caring, and if you share with me your ideas then you have the altruistic tendency. And 7abeebti you are one of the first ones that I have noticed to posses this trait. And unless there is a special reason, comments link should not be closed, coz through that link we communicate, share ideas, get to know each other, help each other. And the commentators who have no blogs, but still share their ideas with us also have this trait in their nature.
Thanx babe for the compliment on my poem.
P72
Sorry dude can't change the background of my blog, it goes well with my poetry :p
Mesh
Thanx for encouragement, I do appreciate it.
Shadi q8i
You got me thinking, could you be more explicit 'bout narcissism and how do you perceive it in the blogging world.
Thank you for the compliment Rabab even though I am anything but :P
The first part of what I wrote was aimed at you. The second part about the comments was more or less in agreement with what GiGi said. I'm sorry I should've made it clearer.
As for Purg and your template... well just ignore him :P
Shady - You've got some good ideas and you bring up some good points but the thing is, you don't follow through. You seem like a fun person to "debate' with 'cept you'd never really go for that would you?
D&G
Ah. Now I get your point
Altrustic people need to set limits and categories as well as a checklist for who deserves their amazing kindness. They can't be everything for everyone it kills them later in the inside cause they dont get anything at the end.
It is all about saying "this person deserves it cause of these reasons" and "this person doesnt deserve anything from me". Cause people will take this kindness and be very evil with it so it is best not to let them. And dont go into thinking "if I do somethig nice to them, they will return the favor. That will never happen.
Dear Nibaq
The true altruistic does not expect much from others, giving is his pleasure. And you are absolutely right, coz as little as he demands from others, he does not get it, some might even use him, that's why you find him lonely, and that is the sad part. But he will eventually meet other people like him. People, who would understand him, feel his vibes, and mingle in his world. And when he does, the spiritual bond becomes so strong; it brings them both a feeling of contentment, a feeling of unity, a feeling that they are not alone.
Sorry to hear that shady, I would have loved to see the other side of the argument right here. You really got me interested. And I believe in the abundance theory; which in this case applies to sharing" not influencing" all points of view in here, and on your blog as well. There is abundance in this world to share, if I get my share that does not mean you are deprived of any, rather, there is plenty more. And keeping to oneself is not my cup of tea.
marumba
thanx for the explanation buddy, I knew I could count on you. So basically what you are saying that there is no true altruistic person as per say, because people with this designation do not expect anything at all, not even acceptance of others. Well then those people I'm referring to in my post would fit more in the humanitarian category, no?
And as for the complement on my blog I really appreciate that. And your stanza is beautiful it gives me the courage and the will to go on.
thanx again buddy.
shady q80
I'm still interested to see your views on narcissism applied in blogging. And even if you do not want to share it in my blog, I'd be delighted to share my views on yours.
cheerz
You did indeed in my soul roam
Provoked the giant, unleashed the storm
I thank you for the encouraging words
That planted the fetus in my womb
i liked your post on altruism and blogging. i guess i always suspected my own personal blogging was an expression of my egotism, even though i want to be an altruist.
Thank you for visiting dear, well I see from your profile that we share a lot of interests, I think we don’t choose to be altruistic or otherwise, off course there is no absolutes here but one trait surpasses the other.
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